When insecurity probes...

Are you extremely happy with the way things are going on in life? Is everything picture perfect? Do you feel you have a lot of friends, loving people around you and yet a few people who pose themselves to be your competitors. (Yet, you secretly know that they aren't a match to you)

Does your life seem to be going on without any tides of misery, insecurity or unhappiness? (when it comes to your career or intellectual aspirations) Well, this might be a rare phenomenon which might happen to only two kinds of people in the world. Either you are an obtrusively content person (I'd rather call it saintly) or you have achieved something 'top of the world'.

Probably, you can be saintly by nature and feel contented with whatever life showers on you. That way, I'm really happy for you. Cuz you have probably won over life's rigmarole of changing desires. But the other way... you presume that you have won something 'top of the world'. This is a pretty dangerous tide to surf on.

In life, we can never assume that we have reached the top rung of the ladder. If you assume so, you will have nowhere but to get back down. Life throws insecurities, desires, wants and demands in multitude at you. It also throws talents and instances where you involuntarily outlay your talents and other people recognize them in you.

These are nothing but opportunities that flow down to you like angels from the sky that scream out your name and call upon you to achieve greater heights.

When you feel absolutely secure and happy in a place that holds your intellectual altitude or your career. You need to halt and think again. Have you chosen the right path, afterall?

When the feeling of insecurity about your progress probes you to think more, you are actually put in the right track. Rather, the untrodden path through which you might probably discover whatever you are destined to acquire. Otherwise, there might only be stagnation all the way.

So go ahead! Welcome insecurity into your life. It is the best precursor for reinstatement of your self-worth as it provokes you to revisit your intellectual altitude, your goals and aspirations for the times ahead.

For someone once said, "If you are the wisest man in the room, you're in the wrong room".

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The New Generation of Politics: Public Welfare

History repeats itself, I'd say. The noticeable and well-structured protests by the AAP against many facets of the ruling government are commendable and absolutely Gandhian. I was nothing but surprised when I saw the drastic changes that resurfaced Delhi right after the recent elections.

A new regime, fresh minds and spirits dedicated to bringing innovations to improvement of citizen welfare, crusading against corruption and misuse of power is the need of the hour for the capital as the crime and corruption rates have been at an ever increasing rate in the recent times.

The new measures brought in, right from the denial of perks by the MLAs, banishment of the Delhi VIP culture and the dharna for suspension of the corrupt police officers of the AAP might be perceived as nothing but publicity stunt by many media critics. But what is to be noted here is that every measure taken has given undeniable success by the accomplishment of the goals for which the measures had been taken in the first hand.

The refurbishment of unused buses as a temporary shelter for the homeless in Delhi, free water supply to the Delhiites as promised and the measures taken to handle the officers for dereliction of duty regarding the narcotic check in 2 Ugandan women and negligence of fast track measures regarding the rape of the 51 year old Danish woman, are highly commendable. 

As an innocent citizen who sees nothing for or against the AAP, I'd most definitely be glad to notice and appreciate the revolutionary changes brought about by the ruling govt. of Delhi. It is by far, the need of the hour for the Delhi govt., I'd rather say, the Indian Government.

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Diplomacy in convolution

How many times have we been involved the hush-hush back stabbing politics around the convoluted cluster of the relationships that we strive to maintain? How many times have we fought over issues that are trivial and have absolute non-connectivity to the self? How many times have we wasted our time supporting a person or a cause that we believe to be right but doesn't involve us in any way?

I bet each one of you would have encountered at least a single situation from the above. And the worst part is, to not know to handle the challenge diplomatically.

A relationship, simply put, is nothing but the rapport that we maintain with people. To maintain the rapport without any stepping stone is a definite challenge in the corporate world, especially when you are emotionally high all the time.

I will tackle this on the basis of a few situations that we might primarily face at our college/work place/ personal life.

Situation 1: Facing a bunch of new friends and handling the initial attitude that they potray towards you, especially when you are vulnerable.


When you handle a bunch of new friends, being zip-mouthed is the statement implied in the bible. You never know who is the faker and who is the wide-mouthed, so you should be doubly careful to not let out your apparent vulnerability.

The initial attitude that some may show you is bound to be welcoming and pleasant, but some are  non-chalant. Being mutually receptive to them is very commendable and being plesant to those who are non-chalant is even more important. Breaking the fragile layer of non-chalance about you in that person might blossom a beautiful friendship between you both.

From my personal experience, people who appear to be non-chalant in the beginning are always good company when they get to know more about you.

Situation 2: When it comes to handling the opposite sex:

Relating to someone from the opposite sex is always a plesant surprise and sometimes it might be dissapointing too. It is always healthy to move with people from the opposite sex without any inhibitions because you get to discover new dimensions to people, new aspects to relating with them and most importantly you are less vulnerable and more exposed.

Initially, relating to the opposite sex might appear to be tough, especially for people who are clouded with inhibitions. But when you diplomatically place the role of the person without getting emotionally attached to him/her, the relationship is a definite hit. (By relationship here, I mean the rapport and nothing personal)

It is very important that you fill their shoes and think what you will do, in every situation the relationship goes deranged. That will help you revive the relationship and might add new dimensions to your capacity of thought.

Situation 3: You are being backstabbed and you are absolutely aware of it.

So your friends are bitching about you behind your back and playing candy in front of your eyes and you know all of this. Relax, take a deep breath and think. Who was the messiah of the bloodied dagger? Who was the one who conveyed this to you? Or did you notice it by yourself? (probably eavesdropped?)

If it is from a reliable source, think twice. What was it that made them talk behind your back that way? What was the mistake on your side that disappointed them? Try to correct it.

When they play candy in front of you, you have no reason to melt out the cream. You play candy too. Don't drop high levels of turmoil into you and swivel with guilt and hate. Just relax and keep outlaying your positives rather than showing out your anger on them and spoiling the relationship.

And when the time is right, deal it with them directly and sort it out.

Situation 4: Taking sides in a fight that doesn't involve you.

Been there, done that? I bet!
When two of your close friends are in a perrinneal fight, taking it as an opportunity to gossip about one to the other is pretty dangerous. It might add fuel to the fire and put you in dark waters. For when they get back together, the first thing they might end up talking is about you.

When something doesn't involve you, fighting for what you believe to be right is foolish. Abstaining from talking to one friend in the name of staying loyal to your closer friend is absolute folly. Why spoil the rapport you share with someone just because you have taken the side of another?

Be diplomatic and completely avoid talking about the issue to your friends. Stay away from accusing the other even when it is only a hush-hush to the opponent-friend. What you can do best here is to comfort both of them saying that everything is going to be alright and that there might have been some mis-communication between the two. Say no more.

Diplomacy is extremely important when handling people. For our minds are the speediest and the most complicated convulsions of all that is under the sun. There is nothing wrong in staying neutral, for being a friend of all is more important than being the most blinded and best friend to a person who might be a potential faker.

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